Most of the time, people tell you that body language is the key to determining whether or not someone is lying to you. This book will teach you how to tell when someone is lying by actually listening to them. Laurie Ayers, a human lie detector residing in Jenison, MI, put together this “quick read” to help people learn when people are lying to them – whether you need it in your personal life or at work.
One of the things I really liked about this book (aside from it being a quick and easy read – yet full of information) is the reflection portion. At the end of each section, you will briefly reflect on what you just read – which helps you remember what you read, allowing your mind to digest the info.
My favorite tip is asking one question at a time. I’ve had experience with this, and throwing too many questions at once toward someone makes it easier for them to deceive you in their responses. I think when you ask too many questions at once, you’re also allowing them to gloss over the questions they don’t want to answer, and you may not even realize it.
The wordplay pointed out as hints that someone is lying made me a bit concerned, however. A lot of the words and phrases are things that I use in my regular daily speech and in my writing. Maybe this is an indication that I should start working on my assertiveness again, or am I just a big fat liar?
Actually, you would use what they say to you to look deeper into whether or not they’re guilty of a lie. It’s not as cut and dry as accusing someone of lying because of one single sentence.
I enjoyed reading this book. I learned a lot and just might have to change up my “normal” vocabulary some (haha). I highly recommend this book if you’re interested in spotting deception or simply interested in the art of communication itself. Grab a copy of Drive Thru Deception – Clues To Detect Deceit on Amazon.